You Date Him? You Date His Mom Too. Get Down Or Lay Down.

Now.

I know that some of you can tell, just by my title that....this is that ole bull-ish.

I ran into this topic, yesterday as I listened to the moaning of an associate talk about how her new friend's MOTHER...is well...

LISTEN UP. I'm just going to share a common scenario with you.

That's right.

*Ahem*

So.

You meet the guy of your dreams. He's a complete sweetheart. Mannerable, respectful, well put together, nice career, nice salary, no kids, no ex-wives, or baby mama's, all limbs the same length, etc....

You are completely taken away, floored by his charm.

He approaches you, and propositions you with a date.

Something simple, and of course you accept because well.....You WANT HIM BAD.

He has none of the average flaws that your quest to find a man is normally interupted with.

So, why not?

You guys hit it off big time. He tells you everything about him, and you LOVE IT.

He talks about how his mom is everything to him, and he doesn't know what he would do without her.

His father, not so much praised, but mommy is definitely the only queen in his life. She was a divorced single mom, and he values that.

He should.

Now, during his first disclosure of such a sweet relationship between him and Mom, you're loving it.

I mean a man who respects his mother to the upmost will respect any other female.

Right?

I mean isn't this what we were always taught?

So, you're just bragging to everyone about this guy.

Ohmigosh.

He is just HOT SH*T in your book, and you are even daydreaming of wedding bells with this man, after dating him for a lengthy six months.

He's been to your place.

You have been to his.

Sex has already naturally INTERVENED, and everything is even seeming to be going as planned.

In fact, he's feeling you the exact same way. He loves how you praise the fact that he is a mama's boy, and respects that woman the way that he does.

This is when he goes in for the killer suggestion.

The moment that will have a woman literally scrubbing allof her impurities away from her skin, the day before the actual event.

He announces...

"I want you to meet my mother."

Now, its only natural that a woman feels a little jittery at the mentioning of having to meet the mother of a man she really likes.

Because what?

We all want to be liked by the woman who made our man.

In fact, we hope that this woman adores us, like a daughter she never had.

Oh she has to. (You know this is what we think.)

Butterum..............................

It doesnt work out that way.

See.

You meet her.

She greets you cordially, but somewhere along the course of the meet n greet, you figure out that

SHE

DOESN'T

LIKE YOU.

No matter how much you smile and use your manners.

She doesn't like your *ss.

Bwahaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa.

Ha.

What do you do?

Now.

Trust.

Your beau, he knows mom dukes doesn't like you either.

He's not going to tell you. He will only make excuses up as to his mother "being the way that she is."

But you know.

Deep down inside you can sense that her "hello" isn't sincere.

The way she laughs around you is pushed out, like a bad actress on Broadway.

She's faking the funk, because she has already determined that she's not feeling you.

Oh but wait.

She will tell her son this too, because that is her baby.

He's perfect and every single woman should want him because he's basically flawless, without a ring on his finger.

She understands her son is a hot commodity.

He loves his mother, and he often goes to her for advice. She will continue to remind him that YOU are not what he needs in a woman.

Oh yeah. Once or twice a week.

She will.

She will advise him that she shouldn't just stop at you, no matter what he feels.

He should venture out more, see what else is out there.

After all, "You are a good man, Son." (Or something mushy to that effect lol)

When she really wants to say, "leave that heffa alone, she's no good for you."

Now at this point, you have to come to some realizations.

First off, this woman has buckoo power over this man's thoughts, because he praises her dearly, worshipping the ground she walks on.

Any woman can see that.

He has even said it out of his own mouth. You know? That his mother has always been the person he could ever talk to about anything.

The only woman who has ever been able to completely understand him.

All of that *sh was SWEET, when you first met him.

Now that the cat is out of the bag, on Queen Mommy not liking you.

Those words remain as sharp as box cutters, piercing into your ego something serious.

In fact, you find yourself stressed out wondering to yourself.

"How in the hell do I compete with his mama!!"
Then the reality sets in.

YOU CAN'T.

YOU REALLY SHOULD'NT.

You want to continue dating him, but you don't see your relationship going anywhere.

Every date, there forward, feels like a complete waste of time.

Life wasted.

He was the one.

DAmmit!

But now, y'all are having discussions about the things his mother has said and they are turning into light arguments.

Then they get deeper.

No longer light arguments, but all-nighter pillowtalk heated discussions.

So deep, that now, dating him has become a migrain affair.

You may even be going bald EARLY. ; /

Yep.

So.

What are you going to do?

Date him and his mother?

Or get lost?

I think we've all been here before. Even I can admit to this, once upon a blue moon.

And well...

The only advice I can give you if you ever run up on a man who is such a mama's boy, that he really wont BLINK before being advised by her.

is to...

Well, how can I put this in simple terms?

RUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN!!!

run for your freakin life.

Mommy monsters are dangerous to our egos.

Hmmph.

lol

XOXO

Chakara