Today's blog is for us ladies and men!
I mean after all we give so much, and heartbreaks don't seem to foreign to any of us. I pose a question that we have to ask ourselves no matter HOW fine our mate is, or how good he can put it down in bed. Just ask yourself. Is he really worth everything you puttin' in?
For example, I see women all the time who carry a man. Like literally. The only thing they can boast about on breh's behalf is how good the "D" is. Last time I checked I couldnt go to the bank and cash in an orgasm. Can you? I'm just saying. Let's stop acting as if good "D" can really carry us so far. I mean sure, you might have a good day that day. Another person may challenge me and say "After sex, I get the energy I need to carry on."
True.
But any man can give you an orgasm. That's not something that you base a relationships WORTH on...ALONE. Nowadays, women are expected to carry the strength and responsibility of a giant, while remaining in tact as a woman, with grace and dignity. Our kids need that and even sometimes our parents need that. Personally, I'm like the "chosen one" of my family. The one who everyone calls when there is an issue. Or atleast I feel that way, and well, a relationship has to be thought out carefully.
Good dick, nice jewels, nice appearance, and money is not enough for me in 2011. As a matter of fact, that hasnt been good enough for me since high school. What about you? Don't get me wrong though. I love a sexy dude just like the next woman, but if thats all the cards in dude's hand then he can be next-ed. Dig it?
You gotta be picky like that cause dudes thnk the fooling us with the materialistic appearance. Fly ride, nice rims, smooth talk, and a couple "make it rain" occasions and alot of us falling thru the cracks like "TAKE ME."
Don't be that easy.
The question at hand could also help you reevaluate what you putting into the relationship. Just like any math equation. The number you put in will determine what you get back. If you are putting in petty numbers, you will get petty answers. So asking yourself this not only saves you from petty bs when dealing with a man, but it can also help you to put your life in order.
Example; If you think that making a man happy will only require a few things like "Good sex, keeping up ur appearance, and being at his every beckoning call"..then you might just get that shallow arrogant dude who believes everything is all about him and believes that he heals all relationship issues with his dinger.
Thats nothing but an orgasm and a headache right there.
Trust me.
A good woman deserves a man who has that special technique of "listening". Doesn't mind catering to his woman if she seems like she needs that. He'll take his time with your kids just as he does his, if there are some in the picture.
Thats real man ish right there.
But if you arn't doing the things you are supposed to do as a woman, you will REPEL this good man. He doesn't want you.
REEVALUATE.
Another example: What if you came into the relationship with things secured and established, considering your age? Young chicks, under twenty five. A man will notice things about you that are "progressive". In other words, if you turn him and his friends down to study for a "midterm" because that's more important than going to a club, then a real man will respect that.
A loser will not understand that. Watch for those loser signs now.
Ladies, 25 and up. A real man will believe that you should have all of your ish in a row. If not "in a row", positioned to get there. If for whatever reason, you're showing signs of putting idiotic things in front of lifetime responsibilities like YOUR KIDS, YOUR HOUSEHOLD.....um
GUESS WHAT?
A real man will notice these things. A loser will look over these things.
Watch for the signs.
See, the reason you have to always ask yourself this when it comes to relationships is because "loving" and "caring" for someone pulls so much from us.
MENTALLY
PHYSICALLY
EMOTIONALLY
You don't want to waste valuable LIFE TIME, spending it with a man who has no REAL MAN INSIGHT.
His career position is really important. A real man understands that. A loser does not. Stop taking "Im a rapper" and then resting at satisfaction. If he's a rapper, then ask homie how he profits from his career. Does he have to be at national level? Nawl. Must he have proof of this being an actual PAID JOB?
Damn right.
You work right? Oh okay, he might not be the one.
The flighty businessman with multiple business cards no clientele.
Don't be fooled!! He has survived on women who have been satisfied with "THE WAY THINGS LOOK".
You never examined his interior.
They didn't either. That's why he's still single.
#FACT
I just want my ladies to stop getting okie doked by the most SIMPLE MINDED men out here. There are some really good guys who don't waste time and energy trying to disguise who he really is with expensive LOOKING things.
Again, there are men who actually can AFFORD to buy expensive things and still handle his business like a man.
They are out here.
But dont be fooled by the masses boo.
Love ya!
XoXo Chakara
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