Chakara's Quick Response To Slim Thug Bashing Black Women

I was asked to respond back to this madness, because alot of men felt like they SCORED, on behalf of the words for "Slim Thug" on BET's website.

Now.

Let me start off by saying, no disrespect to this brother. Although, the fact that he sits like seven feet in the air, weighing well over 250 pounds, tells me that his perception on things are a bit flawed, since he calls himself "Slim Thug". Moving right along though....(lol)

The problem I have with the entire callout is that everyone wants to blame the "black woman."

Black women dont do this right

Black women dont do that right

Black women

Black women

Black women

The attacks have gotten outrageous, yet the follower antics created by certain men to try to IMPRESS these "women", have grown tremendously.

I mean we won't treat our men like kings, but meanwhile our "men" are acting like clowns, by smoking, drinking, being promiscuous, and disowning their responsibilities like the sperm cell they released, that grew into a CHILD.

Enough of that will make any real WOMAN, black or white, wake up.

I wish like hell I would cater to a man, who doesnt care enough about himself to CATER to his health, his financial stablity, his CHILDREN, and his community.

See to gain the title King, you gotta walk the walk.

Being born MAN, does not make you a King breh'.

Every man cant rule a kingdom. Every man isn't fit for the job.

Therefore, every man will not get treated as such.

Now, Slim Thug said: "Most black men who are "successful" are extinct. So women have to bow down and start cooking, working hard, and standing by their black man. Not, holding their heads up high and walking past us.

Excuse my foul language, but dude WTF?

I'd love to see you tell your daughter to treat Lil Killer from the Lou like a King because he is a MAN.

See, I skimmed after reading that, and to be honest..his entire interview was one big contradiction.

Its funny because he'd catch himself, when whining about what black women need, then realize that brothers aint doing that shit either.

See, this is my thing.

From the beginning of time, men were born leaders, kings.

Then as time passed by, and they were just BORN. Ya dig.

Every man is not a king Sweetie.

Every man may see themselves as a KING, but he really couldn't handle a kingdom.

Shoot, some men can't even handle the BILLS.

So picture royal treatment.

Another thing Slim Thug: You are what you attract.

If you walk around with jewels dripping from both ears, your neck, your wrist, etc..you get what you give off.

You get those women who are after your money, because your exterior presents just that.

If women are after your money, then its probably because you are flashing it to attract them.

Think about it.

Is Blood Really Thicker Than Water? Family Vs Friends

All of my life, I've heard the infamous "blood is thicker than water" cliche', and today I bring it to the forefront.

Family, is the makeup of one's relatives and is supposed to be one's own natural network of those who hold them in a special place in their hearts.

Right?

Friends are relationships that one must earn, or work on building with a stranger of their liking?

Right?
We tend to build friends in those areas that interest us the most. Those who attend church and church activities tend to build friendships with those who participate in the same thing.

Then we all have those childhood friends who we played with many years ago, but still kept in touch with. Those are very dear to us as well.

Or, one who plays sports alot, will normally build friendships with his/her jock colleagues or buddies.

It is what it is.

So, you see, with friendships we have a CHOICE, of whom we want to befriend.

Whereas, with family, you deal with the cards you are dealt.

The crazy, the senile, the snobby, the fat, the skinny, the childish, the jealous, the loving, or whatever.

You get what you get, and you live with it.

Pop aspirin if need be.

That's your family.

Now, the question at hand is: Is blood really thicker than water?

I'm going to give y'all my answer, in a minute but hold up.

How many friends do you have?

Personally, I can count all of my true friends on just my two hands.

I value those people like they are worth zillions, because in my book, the value of them being here for me when I need them, is priceless.

You can't put a pricetag on it.

Family?

Man, my family stretches from Conneticut to Georgia, and I wouldnt even know WHERE to begin, in counting them all.

They're everywhere.

Now my answer.

Blood is indeed thicker than water, BUT some kinships are a lil anemic.

You know what I'm saying?

I mean I have an aunt right now, that if I even muster up the word "favor" with my lips, she'll give me that "nigga please" look proudly.

LOL.

Still love you auntie (wink.)

And, I have an aunt who will swim the Atlantic to come rescue me. (well you know not really, but you get the point.)

I hate to admit it, but when there is something really personal I gotta lift off my chest, and need the nonjudgemental companionship of someone, I WILL NOT call most of my family members...

LOL

Why? Because most of them have already made up their minds about "how I am" years ago. Despite how many changes, I morphed my way through, my family still believe they "know how I am."

Nothing I say to them is new to them, because they know how I am.

Blah.

*stomps on the ground*

Alot of the times family, does't take not of change in one another.

Some of us still believe that lil John, is still lil John who used to play basketball and get mad when he loses. Well, lil John is now standing six feet five, very good at basketball, and has learned over the years to brush his bad attitude off in games.

Did family really know that? Nawl.

LOL. Family members have stuck with the last memory they had of this brother, and never changed it.

What about his friends? Of course they do, they also know his favorite movies of today, and what type of music he listens to.

Hell, even I think that I know particular close family members to the TEE.

When maybe I really don't.

Hmm.

Especially when the only time I see them, is on holidays, special events, or at family reunions.

So, with that said.

There is no way that NOWADAYS, in this busy place called "WORLD", that ALL family is thicker than frienships.

There is no way.

Alot of us have family stretched all over the world.

This would be impossible, although we hate to admit it.

This is my opinion, so note that.

Its not for family members to become offended either, but its a wake up call for family members to re-kindle "genuine" friendships with those family members they LOVE and CARE for alot.

Get to know your cousin again, because I'm sure he's changed since y'all were twelve.

Build that friendship.

I would like to know what others think.

Is blood really thicker than water?

Are the relationships you have with your family members stronger than the bond you have with true friends.

Lets talk about it.

XoXo

Chakara

"Um...I don't want your MAN!"

Cause I got it like that.

And it aint even gotta be like that.

ah ha hant. hant. hant.

LOL

No really.

Today's topic is one of the most annoying topics of all time for me.

I mean really.

Did insecurity crash along with Wall Street?

What is wrong with this world?

If I see another negro SLAPPED on aisle three in the supermarket for being accused of staring too hard at the cereal box "behind" me, I will scream.

You ladies have seen these women!!

They see you before the man sees you and thats when the "I wish a b*tch would" stares take place.

So, you ignore them, because why?

Dude is normally UGLY, NOT WORTH THE DRAMA, or looking like a "SIMP". (AKA an ole follow the leader *ss dude)

Plus, obviously he's taken like really. LOL

Not only, do you have his hand clenched tight, but you are prowling the entire parking lot, upon entering the store of any competition, that may take his attention FROM YOU.

But understand, nobody WANTS your man.

Confused females KILL me with this.

Insecurities have turned some women into complete fools.

The insecurities derive from relationships that have no substance. Relationships that arnt based off of the basic virtues or morals that hold one together.

There is normally NO TRUST.

There is normally low self ESTEEM level on the woman's behalf.

There is normally PROBLEMS with FIDELITY in the relationship.

There is normally a CHEATING past, of the "prize" male, one guards like a hood's pit bull.

Wake up!

One can't have a fullfilling relationship with the majority of the above.

You can watch every woman that passes you by in the offering LINE, but you will NOT succeed in keeping this man from anything he wants to go and get.

First off, any man who knows his woman acts this way is probably stressed the fuck out.

Stress your man and then watch his head get small because HE WILL BOUNCE.

Can you blame him?
To be treated like a prison inmate, on a simple trip to the mall is embarrassing.

You've seen the dudes who are emotionally scarred from being treated like a personal slave.

They barely look at you in the grocery store line, because they don't wanna hear the bs in the car.

Or, they look like they're looking straight ahead at all times, almost as if their in drivers ED.

Both hands on the steering wheel and ish.

Dude.

I wonder if their is a sacrafice of one's genitals upon signing up to be such a SIMP.

Like really.

You know whats really funny though.

Most of the time I see this.

The woman is much BIGGER than the many.

Like weight wise.

Hmm.

LOL

Maybe its a southern thing.

What do you think?
What are some annoying episodes you've had with women thinking

YOU WANT THEIR MAN?

Please share.

XoXo Chakara

Should Tiki Barber Be Allowed In The Delivery Room?

Let me think about it.................

Still thinking................

.............................

Sure.

Why not?

Question is....how is it that all of a sudden the birth of your child deems to be so special to you though? I mean, when your eyes were sizing up the "barely legal" young lady and his wife's belly sat on explode, did childbirth seem so damn special then Tiki?

I think not.

This is just another lousy case of "men" FRONTIN for the masses.

He messed up BIG time.

Knew this once he STARTED the affair, now that the baby is on his/her way, its time for him to ACT RIGHT.

Fill that absent void of a father not being there.

Only thing is, Tiki's silly *ss is LATE.

See, no one should be denied the right to see their child born. Whether it be the mother or the father, but there is this thing called respecting when one *ucks UP.

Tikki doesn't care anything about the emotional heartache his wife is going through, ALONG with childbirth.

I can't blame her for NOT wanting him in the delivery room.

He represents nothing but infidelity and slut behavior.

While being in a room sedated by drugs, naturally going through pain, or whatever, NOT ONE woman would want to look at the man who left them eight months pregnant for a damn teenie bopper damn near.

NOT ONE.

So, yes, I feel this woman's frustrations.

Tiki is a NUTHOUSE.

He's selfish and will battle with karma something serious.

Any man that inflicts pain on the woman who is carrying their child, and then continues to torture that person by trying to be involved too early after his lying/cheating episodes is pure scum.

A karma target.

Men are so silly at times.

They commit this horrible crime of infidelity and then they keep on piling on toppings to the scenario.

Tikki's ass just doesnt know when to quit.

Now some might whine: "He's the father"

"He has every right."

Funny.

A father to me is someone who deems the childbirth AND prenatal care and health of their pregnant spouse (or mate) enough to act like a real man.

Now, some also might say, that we don't know why he left his wife.

Maybe it was something she was doing.

Well, you know what maybe your right.

But doesnt the damn timing seem just a lil bit off?

He leaves this woman, foot swollen, belly weighing a ton, peeing every five minutes, for ANOTHER woman.

Eight months into her pregnancy.

Then demands to be in the delivery room

Ha ha ha haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

I'm gone laugh.

Yes sir.

I'm going to LAUGH when karma knocks on that DOOR.

Yes Yes.

Anyways, you've all been tuned in to this morning's celebrity gossip.

Share your thoughts.

XoXo

Chakara

The DeadBeat Mother Vs The DeadBeat Father

There really is no comparison.

Some women believe that their only duty in raising a child is to push them out.

Some father's believe that their only duty as a father is to provide the sperm cell.

Then they take it upon their own decision to

KEEP IT HOT.

Leaving this child handicapped of atleast ONE parent to guide them through life.

Funny, you'll catch the same deadbeat father screaming.."Life is a bitch!"

Well, imagine what your son is thinking, when they can't make the right "manly" decision, due to lack of guidance.

Or what your daughter thinks when the first man who calls her pretty asks for some of her jewels.

Could you imagine?

Of course you could imagine. You too were once a child.

Now, I can talk about deadbeat fathers all day.

But deadbeat mothers are all in a league of their own.

Excuse my French but B*TCHES.

What the hell is wrong with you?

Where are your maternal insides?

The connection between a child and his or her mother is UNEXPLAINABLE.

When this is absent, you take on the resemblence of some ALIEN.

What the hell are you?

Where did you come from and why don't you go back?

Daily, young women are molded into being what they should NOT be.

And there you GO.

Giving NOTHING to the young girl who will grow up a confused woman. Hopefully, society will be kind to her and allow her to mold correctly.

Hopefully.

I mean is that what you think when you wake up in the morning and tend NOT to your children, but to other things that have no assistance in you being a better woman?

We must not, as mothers allow what happened in our past, reflect how we will present ourselves in our future.

Not one drug addiction, man addiction, poverty level, or any other hangup should discourage you from being a MOTHER to your child.

Nothing.

Its not how many times you fall, but how many times you get back up.

Not one of us is perfect. In our children's eyes we are valuable.

Respect that.

Understand That.

Get on your jobs because NOTHING is worse than a DEadbeat Mother.

Nothing.

Today's announcement was short and straight to the point.

Feel free to add to my blogspot and let deadbeat mothers know how you feel.

Thanks

XoXo

Chakara

ACT NOW: An HIV Crisis (Listen Up!)

I dawned on me this morning to talk about this.

Put you all on to something that no one ever talks about.

Those who know me probably guessed it, but its HIV.

See, I'm from the south and the CDC told me a couple years ago that there was a state of emergency and need to ACT on HIV/AIDS NOW..in my old community.

See, I sat on a panel of great and annointed HIV community activists, from the great Minister Forbes of NY, to a man who contracted HIV on death row, after being convicted falsely.

Each one of the persons, along with self, explained to the audience what they saw in the HIV community and the problems that watered stigmas to grow.

Such as

-Miseducation

-Shame

-Guilt

-Ignorance

and so forth....

Just a couple days ago it was HIV Advocacy Day

and well..

as usual.

Guess who were absent?

My people.

Where were you?

We gotta fight this and the only way we can do it successfully is to get educated, educated each other, and get tested each year.

Know your status.

Speaking on this state of emergency.

First off do you know how much HIV medications cost???

I couldnt afford them and I know the average black American couldnt afford them.

A regimen of meds can exceed multiple thousands of dollars.

Thats right.

Now, I don't want to narrow this down to the black race, but right now this is my audience and I need for you guys to listen up.

ADAP- Is a government funded HIV medication drug assistance program. In other words, if a person is HIV positive and cannot afford the medicines that can help them stay alive, then ADAP provides these medicines TO THEM.

Enabling them to a normal life, when taken correctly and acting compliant in medical care.

A common thing for a person who tests positive for HIV asks is

"How long will I stay alive?"

Well, with 75 percent of the ADAP waiting list dwelling in the south, I'm not really sure if I could answer this question.

Right now...

501 people in North Carolina are on an ADAP waiting list.

in South Carolina only 81

and in Kentucky 200..

You guys this is a crisis.

Real talk.

My father, your family member, an HIV positive child, and whomever else is waiting patiently to get the drugs they need to survive.

And all we really need to do is speak up about it?

What good are meds to people who can't afford to get them?

They are no good, and I see the stress on those men and women, waiting patiently for their name to be pulled out of the lottery....

only to be told

that they have a chance at fighting HIV b/c they can now recieve meds.

There is a bill, created by the Senate of the U.S.

Your area representative

My area representative

They need to know about this.

PLEASE ACT NOW.

The bill is called "The Access ADAP Act"

Call your senator rep

Richard Burr...Kay Hagan (examples)

and educate them on this bill.

This bill if passed will bring us more money, that will ease up the waiting list crisis.

This heavy waiting list crisis in North Carolina.

Especially.

Remember OUR PEOPLE NEED THIS.

HIV has taking taken over our communities.

Our brothers and sisters live with this disease day in and day out.

First off, they have to be quiet about their status, because its that shame and guilt that stigmas have placed in their conscience.

Then, on top of all of that nonsense, they are stressing day to day about not being able to get HIV medications.

Call your rep today.

Email your rep today.

Write a letter and mail it off today.

C'mon guys.

Five minutes.

Five hundred lives.

Lets get it.

XoXo Chakara

"Ladies You Are Game. Don't Get Caught So Easily"

Reality.

With my upcoming and new projects, involving much older and mature women than myself, I've often thought about topics involving the opposite sex AKA our s/o's from Mars.

Today's topic inspired by a good advisor and friend of mine.

Today's topic.

"Ladies you are game. Stop getting caught so easily".

We all love to quote the values and duties of real men, yet we settle with men who only present these qualities during the "chase" or the intiation process (for some of us). Then *poof*.

Those qualities crawl up under a rug right along with their dirty socks and t.v. remote.

I've heard of wonderful fairytale imagery having relationships of associates and friends, and then before I can spin around there is a break-up floating around, ready to land.

In our laps.

Why?

Because we then find out that the man we once valued as such a "good man", has expired into a spoiled milk form.

Ruined.

Why?

Easy.

You did it.

You allowed him to catch you.

You fell to the game by tripping up, instead of keeping him on his game of chase.

Please follow Tiphani Montgomery on Twitter (s.n. Author Chakara too), because homegirl put me on to buckoo secrets, when it comes to these deer hunting egos we deal with day to day.

Now whose looking for real men?

B/c if you are not, then I suggest you to go find another blog topic for today.

This one isn't for your sweets.

Real men *aheM* love the art of traditional childhood act of "chasing."

Let's let them play hard ladies.
Reference the very popular hunting games men huddle up and participate in year round.

The girl who teases the boy next door, with her subtle smiles and light blushing, while brisking past him silently, eagers him MORE

than the girl next door whose always IN HIS FACE, smiling, confessing how much she's really fallen for him.

She's way too easy.

She's caught in other words.

He'd rather chase the private admirerer.

The one who gives him a run for his manhood.

Some tend to believe that old timing chilvary acts, such as: opening the car door for his woman, running to her rescue providing safety, taking off his jacket in the midst of chilly weather for his woman to have it, him always picking upt he tab, etc etc.....HAVE ALL EXPIRED.

Yeah, they've expired because of YOU all. (lol)

You all (and self in the past) have allowed them to catch you too easily, now these chases are only short-lived and gentlemen acts are no longer needed as catching tools.

In fact, these men are not needing any tools any longer to catch their game.

Alot of women practically wound THEMSELVES with imaginary victory, believing they have him in their grasps ALREADY, landing themselves, keepsakes included, on these men's doorsteps.

Chase over.

He's now bored.

Now, you wonder why he's on the prowl for his next prize.

Stop letting him catch you so easily.

I don't care how many odd stares he give you.

He's a man, and he will be confused for a minute.

But then...

If he really wants it bad enough...

He will realize that he loves this chase.

He wants to continue running after this.

And no matter what....

He's going to get it.

Run him until his tongue falls slightly out of his mouth, and he's thirsty for attention hydrates.

Real talk.

Don't fall or do one of those cheesy horror movie trip ups.

Keep dodging.

Stand at that door and wait for him to open it.

Kick the independent woman ego to the side for a minute, until he has TRULY deserved your assistance.

Pick up a tab on a date if you want to *snide eye* and jump right off of a plank afterwards.

He'll go on another chase, and it will not be after you.

You've been warned.

Get him used to being the man and doing EVERYTHING a man should do before you cop out and go easy on him.

Go Go!

XoXo Chakara